For the past month I have been floating, trying to find a foothold, a base, an object to secure myself to. But I was untied. I was untied from the weight of being near my children as they nestled themselves into new lives. Without them near, there is so much space and what can you do with space but float in it?
After my divorce, about 12 years ago, I became a seeker. I took wellness workshops, went to nutrition school, read books, explored spirituality, participated in countless programs about mind, body and spirit. I soon discovered that all the deficiencies in my life served as the starting point for what later became my treasures.
The list below is of some of the light posts I lean against when I am feeling less than empowered. Each one is a truth I discovered born out of hardships. It is where I go to remember that my life at this moment is perfect and exactly as it should be. I use these principles as a foundation to boost myself into living a life that is vital, honest and full. I hope they serve you too.
Perfection is the enemy of creativity, happiness and a well-lived life. The ideal of flawlessness suffocates expansion and possibility. It makes contentment impossible.
I choose to speak my truth and live authentically. When I hold back what I truly believe or when I silence myself, I am diminished and my life feels small.
When I ask for guidance, I will receive it. When I sit in frustration, I am shrouded in anger and I solve nothing.
When I pay attention, my world expands. When I am not present, a veil covers the lens to my life. I miss the magic and the messages I am meant to receive.
I nourish my body with real food, kindness, movement and gratitude. I abandon my body when I criticize it, fill it with processed foods, and don’t recognize its beauty.
I nourish my soul with love and acceptance (for myself and others). I starve my soul when I am not mindful of its existence and desires.
I nourish my mind by creating art, seeking bliss and absorbing the wisdom of others. I deprive my mind with too much television, negative beliefs and stagnation.
When I am nourished, I am a source of light. When I ignore the needs of my body, mind and soul, I feel empty and there is suffering. I have nothing to offer the world.
I trust that there is always more truth and learning is infinite. When I believe my principles to be absolute, there is no room for growth.
I acknowledge that there is a time to be still and allow everything to synthesize. If I am always searching, there is no room for being in what I have found and no space for light bulb moments.
I find the good in others even when it seems there is none. We all just want love, acceptance and belonging. Even hurtful behavior stems from that fact.
I am happiest when I feel gratitude for what I have and recognize that what I need is already within me. I will always feel inadequate if my worth comes from others’ opinions or material possessions because neither are a reflection of my true identity.
We are all connected and part of a greater whole. Thinking that the world is disjointed and ‘all about me’ breeds selfishness, discontent, and judgment.
I am committed to being inspired every day. When I don’t search for beauty in the common, I miss the excitement that fuels creativity, growth, and gratitude. I see the world as dull and I am unproductive.
Being uncomfortable is usually the beginning of something wonderful. Staying safe and within the walls of mediocrity will not stretch me into my full potential or into an exceptional life. It will shrink the immenseness of my possibility.
I do not need to be fixed. I am already whole. Finding something in myself that needs to be corrected makes me blind to the fact that the problem is simply a clue that will lead to my growth. Trying to ‘fix’ myself will spend time on the symptom instead of nurturing the seed that is underneath.
All my mistakes and challenges are gifts in disguise. The bumps and bruises of my life will always be a source of bitterness until I admit that they all served a valuable purpose. I find meaning in all of it.
My imperfect life has forced me awake many times. Each time a seed was pressed into the earth and its bud was my salvation. This list is my accumulation of buds. May we all continue to blossom.
Thank you for allowing me to speak my truth. Feel free to comment below. Is there something you’d like to add to the list? What is a truth that you live by or have learned?
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